Getting married is a milestone in life, and as such you want to make it as memorable as possible. It’s your day, so define it your way from the start to the finish and have a personalised wedding ceremony.
A marriage is an event which needs to have a legal record of it; a wedding ceremony isn’t a legal event. Weddings performed in churches, places of worship, licensed venues and register offices all stick to standard scripts which keep in line with the legalities of getting married. Licensed venues such as stately homes, hotels and register offices all have rooms dedicated for use during a marriage ceremony. These rooms may have slight differences in colour schemes, but the ceremonies performed there are all the same from a standard script used for every couple, except for the names being changed. Choosing to have your wedding ceremony at a licensed venue by a registrar, doesn’t give you the option of a bespoke, unique and personalised wedding ceremony.
Alternative wedding ceremonies are a way for a couple to have a personalised and memorable wedding ceremony regardless of your venue being a licensed wedding venue or not. The ceremony should be about you, and include your friends and family if you choose to. Your wedding ceremony, the vows and promises you make to each other on your wedding day should be the most personal part of your day. The day is about you as a couple, and it is a time to celebrate your love and commitment to each other with friends and family. Celebrants who perform bespoke weddings as I do, are seeing an increase in couples wanting a truly personal wedding ceremony. A Celebrant will work with you to compose and deliver a unique ceremony which you receive a copy of as a keepsake.
Should you want to make your marriage legal, all you need to do is make an appointment with your local register office for them to do the necessary legal paperwork with you. This is a legal thing, and you can attend in your jeans if you so wish to as there isn’t a need for formal or wedding wear. You’ll need two witnesses and to say a few legal words and then you are married in the eyes of the law. Of course this is part of a marriage ceremony at a register office, but you are unable to add parts to the script, say personal vows or choose even certain music to be played due to the restrictions they have on it being a purely legal procedure. Where is the romance, joy, uniqueness, friend and family participation and celebration in that? You don’t even have a need for Bridesmaids, a Best Man or the traditional role of giving the Bride away.
If you are interested in bespoke wedding ceremonies, please contact me for more information. I specialise in Gothic and Steampunk wedding ceremonies, as well as themed wedding ceremonies such as Lord of the Rings and Game of Thrones.