As a Civil Celebrant, I see lots of different kinds of weddings and ceremonies. The white traditional church wedding is still very popular, but more couples are moving away from this traditional kind of ceremony. Couples are choosing to get married in various different venues. Weddings in castles, hotels, stately homes, and football grounds are all on the increase. Brides are turning to internet blogging sites for inspiration to their big days.
There are numerous wedding blogging sites that can suggest ideas for your big day from the décor, cake, dress, and theme to the venue. Lots of couples are realising they want all of their day from start to finish to be completely personalised. As a Family Celebrant specialising in alternative ceremonies, this is where I can provide the personal element.
Couples are choosing to get married in different yet personal surroundings. A beautiful woodland wedding or a beach wedding may be your choice of a venue. A ceremony held in a Victorian tin church or a farmyard barn is different from what is considered traditional. I have even been to a Pagan wedding that was held in a large tepee. It is your day so have it your way.
You might want a wedding that incorporates family members into parts of the ceremony. Maybe you would like to include your parents of children by asking them to perform a special elements ceremony for you. The unity candle ceremony, rose ceremony, wine ceremony and tree planting ceremony can all incorporate your chosen people. Perhaps you would like your parents to play more of an active role by reading a poem or personal reading on the day.
Alternative weddings are very popular: Gothic, Steampunk, Rockabilly and alternative looking Brides are all choosing to have their weddings in their own styles.
Gothic Brides with Victorian inspired black or red dresses, the corsets and black veils look beautiful and Grooms in top hats with walking canes and New Rock boots look very handsome. Steampunk Brides in their Edwardian sci-fi inspired dresses with cream and brown full skirts, the Grooms also in top hats with tailed jackets and sporting bronze googles. Rockabilly Brides with their beautifully coloured hair, fantastic tattoos and 1950’s inspired dresses, their Grooms wearing Converse with their wedding suits look amazing and very smart. Vintage inspired Brides with their glorious Hollywood styled gowns and sleek hairstyles; the Grooms very stylish in tailored suits and classic shoes.
Couples who choose a ceremony performed by a celebrant can be sure they are getting a completely personal and individual wedding that is tailored to their requirements. Say your own vows written by yourselves and include your chosen music, readings and poems. Choose a time and date that suits you not one that you are fitted into due to other weddings at that venue on the day. Have your ceremony at a venue of your choice regardless of it being licensed for weddings. Include special ceremony elements into your ceremony and give children, parents, friends and other important people a role in the ceremony.
Whatever choices you make; it is your day so define it your way.
Words: Ellie Farrell
Photography by Rob Farrell Photography